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We help Christians who are looking for hope and healing from trauma and adversity. We interview experts on recovery from trauma and PTSD, as well as share real life stories of people. We focus on recovery from trauma, spiritual abuse, religious trauma and domestic abuse. Join us as we discuss the latest and best strategies for recovery, healing and thriving.
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Monday Sep 25, 2023
Monday Sep 25, 2023
Join us for this incredibly insightful podcast episode with Annette Chesney!
The topic of "narcissism" is a popular topic in the world today. What is it? What does it look like? The lingering affects of narcissistic abuse can cause you to doubt yourself and keep you "stuck".
In this episode we talk about how to identify narcissistic traits and behaviours. She also introduces the idea of a "narcissistic spectrum" and the varying degrees of a narcissist (Category 1 - 4) and explains each stage and what’s going on for that individual.
“Just because someone is out of a relationship, doesn’t mean that they’re automatically healed”. Going through a healing process after a narcissistic relationship is so important, as you can have lingering trauma and hinderances. There are 5 stages of grief when it comes to narcissistic abuse and in some ways are more complicated and convoluted than imagined.
Annette Pastored for over 15 years and during that time had a support group ministry that offered pastoral care, counselling and inner healing. She then launched her own business and started coaching business woman, teaching them how to get "unstuck".
For full episode details and links to Annette's ministry and resources, visit our website at: www.definedbygod.com/episode31
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Monday Sep 11, 2023
Monday Sep 11, 2023
What is the orphan heart and how do I know if I have one? Are we all born with it? How do we allow God's love to pour in and change us?
Andy and Anna talk about some of the characteristics of an orphan heart and how it influences the way we navigate through the world and our life. They also discuss how it effects our view of God and where this idea of an orphan heart comes from.
God has always been loving us, He IS our Father, He IS loving us constantly, it's becoming aware of this revelation that changes our hearts. Our sin does not hinder God from loving us and coming to us, but rather He is faithful to reveal himself to us as our loving Father.
Andy and his wife are a part of Fatherheart Ministries. They have been in full time ministry since 1985. They started out working with "Youth with a Mission" for 13 years then started their own ministry called "Revival to the Nations" (RTTN) where they teach the revelation of the Father's love.
Visit our website at www.definedbygod.com
For full episode details and links to Andy's ministry and books, visit our website at: www.definedbygod.com/episode30
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#definedbygod #definedbygodministries #fatherheart #loveofthefather #loveofgod #god #jesus #jesuschrist #orphan #orphanheart #andyglover #annaharris
Tuesday Aug 29, 2023
Tuesday Aug 29, 2023
Trigger warning: In today's podcast/video we discuss the sensitive topic of post abortive grief and trauma recovery.
In today's podcast we discuss the sensitive, important topic of post abortive grief and trauma recovery.
This is not a political discussion, nor an ethical discussion.
We are talking about the grief that having an abortion can produce, on both women and men, and how to recover. In some ways, it's the hidden trauma, because in the church, there can be shame around it so it's not talked about. And outside of the church, most discussion of grief or a traumatic impact is minimized.
Dave discusses the fascinating biological changes that happen in the mother's body during pregnancy and after abortion, and how it also affects the biological father (if he's present). He shares touching stories of men and woman who have gone through this healing journey and how the love and comfort of God can bring healing.
David and his wife Janet work with a post abortion recovery ministry. They use various techniques and activities to help unlock the stored trauma in the body, calm the nervous system and release the trauma.
Visit our website at www.definedbygod.com
For full episode details and links to Dave's ministry, visit our website at: www.definedbygod.com/episode29
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#definedbygod #traumarecovery #traumacoach #definedbygodministries #grief #griefjourney #miscarriage
Thursday Aug 17, 2023
Thursday Aug 17, 2023
Join us on this week's podcast where Mark Head interviews Anna as she talks about the hidden impacts of being adopted at birth, and how the love of the Father transformed her life!
Have you ever felt like you didn't quite fit in? Like you were different from everyone else? Whether you've been adopted or not, many people can relate to the feelings of abandonment and rejection that Anna talks about in this episode.
Receiving the revelation of the Father's love was a moment that changed Anna's life forever and began a healing journey for her. Now she dedicates her life to sharing this revelation with others. Are you curious about the Walking with the Heart of the Father retreat this fall?
Tune in to hear about what you can expect and how you will be changed by this amazing time away.
To register or learn more about the retreat, visit: www.definedbygod.com/events/retreat/
#definedbygod #retreat #healingretreat #texas #christian #christianretreat #loveofthefather #fatherheartrevelation #annaharris #markhead
Monday Aug 07, 2023
Monday Aug 07, 2023
Join us on this week's podcast where Mark Head interviews Anna as she talks about the hidden impacts of being adopted at birth, and how the love of the Father transformed her life!
Have you ever felt like you didn't quite fit in? Like you were different from everyone else? Whether you've been adopted or not, many people can relate to the feelings of abandonment and rejection that Anna talks about in this episode.
Receiving the revelation of the Father's love was a moment that changed Anna's life forever and began a healing journey for her. Now she dedicates her life to sharing this revelation with others. Are you curious about the Walking with the Heart of the Father retreat this fall?
Tune in to hear about what you can expect and how you will be changed by this amazing time away.
To register or learn more about the retreat, visit: www.definedbygod.com/episode28/
#definedbygod #retreat #healingretreat #texas #christian #christianretreat #loveofthefather #fatherheartrevelation #annaharris #markhead
Tuesday Aug 01, 2023
Tuesday Aug 01, 2023
What did Jesus REALLY say about forgiveness? We trust that this teaching will bring you a lot of freedom when it comes to the forgiveness message that many of us have been taught in the church.
This is an open, honest conversation about the responsibility of both parties when it comes to forgiveness. I'm sure we've all been taught the famous passage about forgiveness in Matthew 18. We are told to forgive - YES! But sometimes this teaching is taken out of context.
Some teachings imply that as Christians we should "shove the offense under the rug" so to speak and just simply forgive, over and over and possibly stay in an abusive situation. When in fact, we need to speak up and confront wrongful actions.
Modern day teachings on forgiveness tend to be very heavy on the victim's responsibility to forgive, but not enough emphasis on accountability of the one who's causing the offense. What is their responsibility? There are two sides to this coin.
In this episode, Anna talks about current forgiveness teachings and some of the problems with them, and about thinking about forgiveness when Jesus was on the earth. And, we're honored to have Diana back as a returning guest on our podcast. She shares some of her story in this episode, as well.
In this podcast we see that the Bible instructs us to confront the abuser or offender and how it's actually a loving act to do so. It is beneficial for the offender because it offers them an opportunity to realize they are wrong and change their ways.
To read Anna's blog, "When forgiveness teaching is harmful". Click here: https://definedbygod.com/when-forgiveness-teaching-is-harmful/
To watch Diana's previous podcasts, ""When the abuser is both your husband and Pastor", Click here: https://youtu.be/bsbFCF7egqo
For full episode, podcast and shownotes, visit: www.definedbygod.com/episode27
#definedbygod #forgiveness #forgivenessteaching #traumarecovery #religioustrauma #spiritualabuse #abuse #bibleteaching #definedbygodministries #annaharris #jewishculture
Tuesday Jul 25, 2023
Tuesday Jul 25, 2023
In this episode we look at EMDR therapy. What is it?, How does it work? What are the benefits? And is it "Christian friendly"? Our guest today is Esly Carvalho, Ph.D., T.E.P., and she explains EMDR in such a clear, simple way. If you've been wondering if it's something you should try, or want to understand it better, you'll want to listen to/watch this podcast. Esly is the Founder and Director of the TraumaClinic Group. She is the author of many books, some of which have hit Amazon Bestsellers' lists, such as Healing the Folks Who Live Inside,(reviewed in the Journal of EMDR Practice and Research (2013) and Heal Your Brain, Heal Your Body.
With over 40 years of experience, Esly is a certified trainer of EMDR therapy (EGN), Brainspotting (Brainspotting Institute) and Psychodrama (American Board of Examiners in Psychodrama, Sociometry and Group Psychotherapy, which she passed with distinction).
From 2004, to the present time, Esly has been involved in expanding the use and training of EMDR therapy around the world. She has been instrumental, directly or indirectly, in the implementation of this approach initially in Brasil and Latin America (Ecuador, Bolivia, Costa Rica, Venezuela) as well as Spain and Portugal. Robbie Dunton (Executive Director, EMDR Institute) once described her as the "Mother of EMDR Latin America" (personal communication, 2013) .
To find out more about Esly's work, visit her website: www.traumaclinicinternational.com
Her FREE Kindle manual for women who are coming out of domestic violence, can be found here: https://a.co/d/61Qiy4X
For her online course, visit: www.traumaclinicinternational.com/course/pipa
#definedbygod #traumarecovery #emdrtherapy #emdr #abuse #traumacoach #ptsd #cptsd #definedbygodministries #esly #healing #psychodramatherapy
Tuesday Jul 11, 2023
Tuesday Jul 11, 2023
**This is an episode you do not want to miss!! It also includes a real-time exercise that you can do at home as you watch!**
This conversation offers so much FREEDOM from religious messaging and brings the conversation and focus back to Jesus - the one who heals us.
In this episode we talk with Melinda Wilson about spiritual abuse and religious trauma. Have you ever thought about receiving inner healing but feel unsafe to do so? Encountering the person of JESUS is what brings the healing.
Melinda teaches Immanuel Approach, a healing modality which helps remove blockages that hinders deeper intimacy with Jesus. "When we encounter the living presence of Jesus and experience His presence, His "Glad-to-be-with-us-ness"... the definition of joy, then we receive healing. Attachment wounds and traumas of all kinds are healed by encountering the love of Jesus."
The Immanuel Approach is trauma informed and is based on brain science. You will learn how to change your neural pathways and change the way you handle situations in your life. We also discuss some of the myths of heart healing, what it is and what it isn't.
Melinda is co-founder of Face to Face Ministries, and has had the privilege of experiencing life as a missionary and student overseas for years. She has always had a heart to share who the real Jesus is with others in one capacity or another. After experiencing her own transformative heart healing over the years, she knew her calling was to see people set free to walk in their God-given design and in their true heart. She is passionate about teaching, training, and equipping men and women with practical skills and tools which bring healing and transformation to their everyday lives.
To find out more about face to face ministries, click here: www.facetofaceminitries.org
For full podcast details, click here: www.definedbygod.com/episode25
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Tuesday Jun 27, 2023
Tuesday Jun 27, 2023
Janice went from being in full time ministry, ministering all over the world with her husband, to one day just saying "I just can't do this anymore". Little did she know she was in for an 11 year long journey of deconstructing her faith and learning for the first time who she REALLY was. She had tried to fit in to the various molds that she was given, first in her very conservative church growing up, and later into minister molds. She felt she didn't know the real Janice.
What happens when you find yourself hitting a wall? When you have nothing left to give mentally, physically, or spiritually? "I didn't feel as if I had anything to say anymore, and if I did open my mouth to speak, I felt like a fraud. I think looking back, I was getting in touch with the fact that I did not know who I was, and I couldn't function in that atmosphere anymore".
For those 11 years, God took her on a journey of self discovery, but more importantly, a discovery about who He was to her. It was during that time that God met her, in a time when she had nothing left to "give" God. She explains how God lovingly came to her and said "Let's find something that works for you". God was gracious and kind. Janice felt like she didn't need to pretend anymore and that she could take off the old "clothes" that didn't fit her anymore.
"I didn't know who I was... I was too tired, I didn't have it in me anymore... I felt nothing. But I felt a huge sense of relief... the only way I can describe it is like going into a Spiritual coma." If you find yourself in a place where you're burnt out and no longer recognize the place you're in, or who you are for that matter, let God come to you and do what he needs and wants to do. You might not know where you're going, but He's in control and will take care of you in the journey. "I have a new level of freedom that I can't even describe".
To read Janice's Blog, click here: https://definedbygod.com/what-deconstructing-my-faith-taught-me/
For full episode details, click here: www.definedbygod.com/episode24
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Tuesday Jun 20, 2023
Tuesday Jun 20, 2023
SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT! Upcoming Retreat with Anna and Mark coming October 2023! Sign up for the waitlist and receive more details here: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/648fd58af94b5294ed86b5af
What do you do when "trying harder" doesn't work? When Christianity becomes about your effort and what you're "doing" for God, instead of what He's already done, it robs you from experiencing the fullness of what true relationship with God can be like. Mark talks about how when we become "failure" focused, it prevents us from actually enjoying our relationship with God and having peace in our lives.
Unfortunately, there are many preachers and churches teaching that our fundamental identify is one of "sin", when in fact, we are Sons and Daughters first, made in God's image. When we change our perspective and take the focus off sin, and onto our TRUE identity as His beloved child, our lives change radically.
For full episode details and information about the retreat, click here: www.definedbygod.com/retreat
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